heartbroken

I am sitting here absolutely heartbroken.

I saw something on facebook the other day that made me do a double take. An old friend of mine in Hfx that I taught with changed his relationship status from married to single.

Couldn't quite figure it out as I knew that he and his wife would never have gotten divorced. They had already been through so much together - they lost a son a few months after being born about 25 years ago and then they were in a car accident around 10 years ago and their eldest son was killed and my friend was very badly injured. His wife and other son were not badly injured.

They made it through that and actually came closer together as a family unit because of it (the son who lived was the "troublesome son" and he turned himself right around after the accident).

I went back to my friend's page tonight and the relationship status change had been deleted from his profile and there was simply nothing there BUT there were 3 new pictures posted and a link to some "Cruise 2009" pictures.

The 3 new pictures were super odd. They were pics of him and his wife on their 2nd honeymoon, then one of his wife with the son who had been killed when he was about 6 and then one of his wife with the youngest when he was maybe 3. Just weird to say he's single, then put up pictures of his wife when everyone was so much younger. She was never one to take pictures. I don't think I actually have one of her now that I think back.

I then went to the cruise pictures and it was my friend and his son and another older couple. WTF? Couldn't figure out what the hell was going on. Then I clued in... the only possible thing to explain it was simply unthinkable.

I googled her name and obituary...

It came right up.

She passed away on christmas eve 2008.

I am simply stunned and heartbroken.

I don't know how ML is putting one foot in front of the other or AL for that matter! I can't do anything for them in the physical world. He wouldn't want anyone to anyway and he is obviously to the point of acceptance.

All I can do is try to digest it and pray.

I also just realied...it is this week...I'd go so far as to say today to the DAY that the accident happened. They were heading to Sugarloaf for march break for Skiing and NS always has a later march Break than NB does.

OMG!! 10 years ago this week... At least I can believe that mom and sons are happy together on the other side.

Absolutely heartbroken.